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Goodbyes…

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How long does it take a Mother to say good bye? A MINUTE?  An Hour? My eldest son (25 in 3 days) thinks it takes me to long.  He says that I have a ‘problem’ with saying good bye…

I enjoy my sons. I love who they are becoming. I love the challenges for me as a parent to grow along with them.(which I like to call opportunities because not all parents take them)  I thank him for the ‘opportunity’ to assess this apparent dilemma (haha “a parent” dilemma… that’s funny!)

It seems I always have ‘one more thing’ to say or ask… Is this a  a delay tactic or fact? I think as a mom when I finally get a chance to talk with my ‘Outbound’ sons, one in NYC (sometimes elsewhere ) and the other in MI (sometimes China)…  I do not want to say good bye. … YES, I confess, it is hard to say good bye.  When I sense the moment drawing near I start stammering and delaying the inevitable with the “one more thing” tactic my youngest used many times as a child, which I will NOW defend, to lengthen the treasured moments of conversing with them. I then get the “maahhhm…” and I (further) awkwardly and quickly say “ok, good bye” and hang up or click the “x” for Skype and as if in that MINUTE proving I can do it!  Knowing it will inevitably happen again…

I am reading a Book called “Empty Nest”… a (very good) book about 31 parents experiences as their children went off to college…  I am reading the book as “homework” for my eldest son, we are writing a Book together… attempting to anyway.

“The last half hour before we pulled away from the curb was freighted with anxiety, hers and ours, with excitement, with admonitions spilling out and tenderness spoken and unspoken, love, confusion, AND the Irresistible Urge to Linger”

…see my son, it is normal!  and although I miss my sons at times (and now my beautiful daughter in law too), I am glad that my sons are out on their own and participating in society away from me. It brings me immeasurable joy.

Here are some Quotes that I like.                                                         Jeff and Dan

How lucky I am to have known someone who was so hard to say goodbye to.

Why does it take a minute to say hello and forever to say goodbye?

Where is the “good” in goodbye?

A man never knows how to say goodbye; a woman never knows when to say it.  ~Helen Rowland

Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending.  ~Lazurus Long

Spending a Minute in Texas…. My First

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So here we are in Texas, my Mother and I….  we took a Minute (or two) and headed down to Austin to meet my mother’s cousins for the first time.  It is our first time to Texas as well.

Mary and Teresa Evan, my mother is Edna Faye Evans… their fathers are half brothers (same father).  There are also two others, Susan and Mike who live in their hometown in Minnesota.  The names are different because my grandfather had the spelling changed. On a Document from the late 1800’s as our ancestors came from Prussia, the name was spelled Even and Iwan. There are many reasons for name spelling being changed during this time.

I am not really into Genealogy but what a wonderful blessing to meet family that we never knew existed. Now after three days of adventurous bonding we feel like true ‘kin’ bonded forever as family.

Thank you Mary and Mom for working so hard (and spending many Minutes) connecting the dots of our family. For those of you that do not have family may you discover the bonds of family from friends and perhaps even uncovering distant relatives that can now begin a legacy of family for you.

and… we are ALL part of God’s family, Every One……

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“The test of first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function”

F Scott Fitzgerald
the next line is… ” One should, for example be able to see things are hopeless and yet be determined to make them otherwise”…

I think all Mothers are of the highest of first-rate intelligence…. always juggling logic of the mind with the power of the heart…. and Very Determined.

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