How long does it take a Mother to say good bye? A MINUTE? An Hour? My eldest son (25 in 3 days) thinks it takes me to long. He says that I have a ‘problem’ with saying good bye…
I enjoy my sons. I love who they are becoming. I love the challenges for me as a parent to grow along with them.(which I like to call opportunities because not all parents take them) I thank him for the ‘opportunity’ to assess this apparent dilemma (haha “a parent” dilemma… that’s funny!)
It seems I always have ‘one more thing’ to say or ask… Is this a a delay tactic or fact? I think as a mom when I finally get a chance to talk with my ‘Outbound’ sons, one in NYC (sometimes elsewhere ) and the other in MI (sometimes China)… I do not want to say good bye. … YES, I confess, it is hard to say good bye. When I sense the moment drawing near I start stammering and delaying the inevitable with the “one more thing” tactic my youngest used many times as a child, which I will NOW defend, to lengthen the treasured moments of conversing with them. I then get the “maahhhm…” and I (further) awkwardly and quickly say “ok, good bye” and hang up or click the “x” for Skype and as if in that MINUTE proving I can do it! Knowing it will inevitably happen again…
I am reading a Book called “Empty Nest”… a (very good) book about 31 parents experiences as their children went off to college… I am reading the book as “homework” for my eldest son, we are writing a Book together… attempting to anyway.
“The last half hour before we pulled away from the curb was freighted with anxiety, hers and ours, with excitement, with admonitions spilling out and tenderness spoken and unspoken, love, confusion, AND the Irresistible Urge to Linger”
…see my son, it is normal! and although I miss my sons at times (and now my beautiful daughter in law too), I am glad that my sons are out on their own and participating in society away from me. It brings me immeasurable joy.
How lucky I am to have known someone who was so hard to say goodbye to.
Why does it take a minute to say hello and forever to say goodbye?
Where is the “good” in goodbye?
A man never knows how to say goodbye; a woman never knows when to say it. ~Helen Rowland
Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending. ~Lazurus Long