Monthly Archives: July 2015

Once a Mother, Always a Mother

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Take a Minute and consider this…

What is a mom? When does this phenomenon begin?
At conception? Conception of what?
A child, a mentoring friendship, signing Adoption papers?
And perhaps more curious, When does it end…

Webster’s defines a mom as…

  1. Mother(noun) a female parent; especially, one of the human race; a woman who has borne a child
  2. Mother(noun) that which has produced OR nurtured anything; source of birth or origin; generatrix (beginning point of reference)
  3. Mother(noun) an old woman or matron (well earned)
  4. Mother(noun) the female superior or head of a religious house, as an abbess, etc (Respect)
  5. Mother(noun) hysterical passion; hysteria … LOL
  6. Mother(adj) received by birth or from ancestors; native, natural; as, mother language; also acting the part, or having the place of a mother; producing others; originating
  7. Mother(verb) to adopt as a son or daughter; to perform the duties of a mother to

I especially like #2, #5, #6 and #7.

In #2,  One can ‘produce ‘ something but not necessarily ‘nurture’ it and as well, one can ‘nurture ‘ something but did not actually ‘produce’ it. The key here is the nurture. Any woman who has been a mother to anyone (produced or not) has the opportunity to Nurture. Some of the closest relationships I have observed were not biological.

#5 just makes me chuckle… These words in an actual dictionary actually connected to the word Mother, give me great pleasure and justification to admit I have ‘been there’… to the brink of hysterical passion and hysteria on occasions too numerous to count. Just ask my sons…

I love the generational humanity that #6 suggests. There is a connection between biological mothers and children that is forever, whether there has been nurture or not.  This passes down through the generations of Great grandmothers, grandmothers etc. It is as it is, there is no changing the people from whom we are connected to. Generational love is a powerful thing.

In #7 the word Adopt suggests intention.  I love that word.  It means ‘determination to act a certain way’, deliberate. Anyone who has gone through the process of actual child adoption knows the long arduous process that can often take years. (I know a little bit about that as my sister adopted her son, my nephew, from Kazakhstan 12 years ago). It takes a lot of intention, and money. It is a choice to give life to a baby/child whether from conception or not. ‘Performing’ the daily joys and trials of unending duties connected to mothering for children of any age takes deep love and commitment.

So with these ‘definitions’ of Mother, how does anyone determine when this ‘position’ in life actually begins and ends.  Some say it begins at conception and ends when the child turns “of age”, such as 21, that they are now an ‘adult’ and what…. a mother is no longer needed or worse yet, wanted…

There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of my grown sons, want to talk with them, see them, spend time together, know that everything is good, life is treating them well, are they happy etc.  It is like breathing, it just happens without thought or effort.  I don’t always have the answers to my wondering, or for various reasons, the opportunity to connect. The point is I am a Mother and I love my sons.  I love others that I consider mine and everything I feel for my own, I feel for them.

I say it is Forever.  I determine this not anyone else. No one can take the fact away from me or you. Once a mother, always a mother.

Take a minute to receive the honor of that position. Take another minute to express it.

These are some of my  favorite mom’s and friends. I honor you ALL.

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